This is a 3-part live workshop series in a 3 month container where you’ll learn how to stop saying ‘it’s fine’ when it isn’t, ask for what you actually want, and say no without the guilt...while we find and rewire the old beliefs that made you people-please in the first place.
You’ve done inner work...
But when it’s time to speak up, you still go quiet.
You agree to plans you don’t want.
You wait for texts instead of asking for clarity.
You tell yourself you’re ‘easygoing’ while resentment builds.
You know you deserve healthy love, yet something still keeps pulling you back into the same old patterns.
This series gives you the exact words, practices, and the mindset shifts and emotional rewiring you need to respond differently - in real conversations, messages, and dates
You’re the kind of person who goes along with what others want just to keep the peace.
✨ You say “sure, no worries!” when someone cancels at the last minute...but then feel sad, small and maybe a bit sick.
✨ You want more love, affection, or consistency, but you’re scared asking for it will make you “too much.”
✨ You’ve over-given for so long you’re not even sure what you need anymore.
✨ You replay arguments in your head and think of the words after it’s over.
✨ You feel generous… and also quietly resentful that no one seems to notice.
Does this sound familiar?
You already know you should speak up, say no, or ask for what you need. The problem isn’t knowledge...it’s wiring.
Underneath those patterns are old survival childhood coping patterns that whisper, “If I ask, they’ll leave,” or “It’s safer to stay quiet.” In this series, we’ll uncover those beliefs and reprogram them through guided practices, so showing up securely starts to feel natural, not forced.
The Secure Love Workshop Series...
Is where you uncover those hidden blocks, heal them at the root, and learn to meet your needs with clarity, confidence, and compassion.
Across three 90-minute workshops, you’ll move through a gentle but powerful progression:
Workshop 1
Understanding & Honouring Your Needs.
Uncover and heal the old fears that make you suppress your needs. Learn practical ways to start meeting them regularly, so you don’t feel so “needy” all the time.
Workshop 2
Communicating with Clarity & Compassion
Transform fear into courage as you practice expressing your needs with openness and confidence - even when the other person gets defensive.
Workshop 3
Boundaries & Secure Relating
Heal the beliefs that make you feel guilty for saying no, and learn how to set boundaries that protect your energy without closing your heart.
Heal the beliefs that make you feel guilty for saying no, and learn how to set boundaries that protect your energy without closing your heart.
Each session blends psychology, embodiment, and subconscious reprogramming techniques, ending with a live Q&A circle to integrate what you’ve learned.
When you join, you’ll also receive:
💗 Access to a private WhatsApp community for reflection & accountability
💗 The 21-Day Reprogramming Challenge to rewire a core belief so that secure relating becomes effortless
💗 Weekly reflection prompts between sessions to help the shifts stick.
💗 A portal to access the recordings and any bonuses
Whether you’re new to this work or already on your healing path, this three-month journey offers the structure, support, and emotional transformation so you can start feeling calm, chosen, and connected in your relationships
Imagine the Shift...
Right now, love might feel like:
⚡️ Saying “yes” when you mean “no.”
⚡️ Wondering if you’re asking for too much.
⚡️ Feeling anxious, overthinking, or waiting for someone else to choose you.
After these workshops, love begins to feel like:
✨ Confidence in asking for what you need and receiving it with ease.
✨ Communicating calmly instead of shutting down or chasing.
✨ Feeling grounded, respected, and secure in your connections.
“Gina made me feel safe and understood—two of my biggest wounds. I’m now recognising and verbalising my triggers, and making real progress.” ~ Katie
What You’ll Learn...
In each 90-minute workshop, you’ll uncover the fears and habits that keep you repeating old patterns and replace them with real-life tools for secure relationships...things you can actually use in conversations, texts, and everyday moments.
This isn’t about memorizing scripts or trying to “do better.” It’s about changing the subconscious beliefs that make speaking up feel unsafe in the first place, so secure behaviour starts to feel natural instead of effortful.
You’ll learn how to:
✔️ Stop feeling “needy” by meeting your own needs regularly and confidently.
✔️ Identify and release the fears...they’ll leave me, I’ll upset them, I’m not worth it...that keep you quiet or over-giving.
✔️ Ask for clarity instead of waiting and worrying, and express what you need in simple, honest language.
✔️ Say no with kindness and confidence... without guilt or long explanations.
✔️ Follow through when someone’s words and actions don’t align.
✔️ Shift the stories that say love only comes when you self-sacrifice and replace them with a felt sense of safety, worthiness, and mutual care.
What You’ll Receive
Three 90-minute live workshops with teachings, guided practices, and a Q&A / Hot Seat Coaching session.
✨ A simple accountability challenge between sessions (with reflection prompts and accountability)
✨ Access to a private WhatsApp community for connection and shared growth
✨ A supportive, non-judgmental space where healing meets practice
✨ A portal with all the recordings, audios and any bonuses
✨ Three months of support
✨ BONUS: 21-Day Reprogramming Challenge ($300 value) - a daily audio that helps you retrain the beliefs that keep you stuck in fear, such as “If I ask, they’ll leave” or “I have to earn love.”
You’ll rewire these patterns at the root so that expressing yourself starts to feel safe - even easy.
Live Call Dates & Times
💫 Workshop 1 – Understanding & Honouring Your Needs
🗓 Friday 21 November 2025
🕗 8 p.m. Bali | 7 a.m. New York | 3 a.m. L.A. | 1 p.m. Paris | 12 p.m. London | 2 p.m. Greece
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💫 Workshop 2 – Communicating with Clarity & Compassion
🗓 Friday 12 December 2025
🕗 8 p.m. Bali | 7 a.m. New York | 3 a.m. L.A. | 1 p.m. Paris | 12 p.m. London | 2 p.m. Greece
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💫 Workshop 3 – Boundaries & Secure Relating
(check your time zone)
🕗 Sydney: Friday 9 January @ 8 a.m. Sydney (AEDT) |
Europe + USA: Thursday 8 January @ 4 p.m. New York | 1 p.m. L.A. | 11 p.m. Athens | 9 p.m. London
Purchase Full Program...
✨ Join the Full 3-Part Series – $240 AUD (save $300+ in value)
💗 Three months of a support container
💗 All 3 live workshops + replays
💗 Access to the private WhatsApp community for support & accountability
💗 Reflection prompts between sessions
💗 BONUS: The 21-Day Reprogramming Challenge (a $300 value) to heal the core beliefs behind your patterns
Secure Love in Action 3-Part Series
240
The Full 3-Part Workshop
Or Purchase a Single Workshop...
✨ Join a Single Workshop – $88 AUD
Choose any of the three 90-minute live workshops.
You’ll receive access to that session’s replay.
(Community access and reprogramming materials are not included in the single-workshop option. That’s why most people choose the full 3 part series)
Select workshop
Understanding & Honouring Your Needs
88
Secure Love In Action Workshop 1 (Friday 21 November 2025)
Communicating with Clarity & Compassion
88
Workshop 2 (Friday 12 December 2025)
Boundaries & Secure Relating
88
Workshop 3 (Friday 9 January 2026)
Words from my client...
“My coaching journey with Gina has been amazing. It allowed me to finally end the relationship with my ex, and release some deep fears I had about partnership. Now I'm flirting and see interesting men everywhere I go! I have new standards, and I've never been more confident in myself. I know the type of partner and relationship I truly desire and I'm on my way to manifesting it!”
~ Mathilde
“It’s hard to express just how powerful working with Gina was. With her guidance, I’ve been able to rewire negative patterns. feel empowered to live from the energy of love within me, rather than constantly seeking it from the outside. This is one of the most healing modalities I’ve come across. I highly recommend it to anyone who wants to not just survive, but truly thrive in life”.
~ Monica
Who This Is For...
This series is for you if you’ve already begun your healing journey - through therapy, coaching, or personal growth...but you’re ready to live the changes you’ve been cultivating.
You’ll feel right at home if...
✨ You want to understand why your needs feel “too much,” “too late,” or “never met.”
✨ You find yourself over-giving, people-pleasing, or doubting your needs in love.
✨ You want to express yourself without fear of rejection, conflict, or losing connection.
✨ You’re ready to set boundaries that protect your energy without shutting down your heart.
✨ You crave real-life tools, community, and gentle accountability on your healing journey - so you don’t have to do it alone
Whether you’re brand new to attachment work or a seasoned practitioner, you’ll leave each session with deeper awareness, real-world skills, and the confidence to show up differently in love - starting now.
I Know This Works...Because I Did It Myself
A few years ago, I was just like you.
Stuck in the same painful cycle...chasing after men who wouldn’t commit, feeling not good enough for love, and constantly wondering if I was “too much” and scaring men away.
I’d done years of self-development, therapy, coaching, embodiment practices...and still ended up anxious and spiralling when a guy didn’t text back.
The turning point came when I committed to doing the very same reprogramming process I’ll be guiding you through in Secure Love In Action.
Shortly after, I entered the most loving, conscious, and secure relationship of my life. A man who fully chose me, committed to me, and made me feel deeply cherished. And no... it wasn’t a fluke. I could feel that I had changed.
I wasn’t trying to prove myself, or anxiously waiting for validation anymore. I felt safe in my own body. Safe in love. Secure for the first time.
This process didn’t just change how I dated. It changed how I related to men, to myself, to life.
Now, I want to show you how to do the same.
“Gina helped me move through a difficult breakup, reconnect with my self-worth, and approach life with more confidence and emotional clarity. The new guy I am dating doesn’t even compare to my ex!”
~ Maeve
What You Get With The 3 Part Program…
✔️ Three months of a support container
✔️ All 3 live workshops + replays
✔️ Access to the private WhatsApp community for support & accountability
✔️ Reflection prompts between sessions
✔️ BONUS: The 21-Day Reprogramming Challenge (a $300 value) to heal the core beliefs behind your patterns
You pay only…
✨ Join the Full 3-Part Series – $240 AUD (save $300+ in value)
💗 Three months of a support container
💗 All 3 live workshops + replays
💗 Access to the private WhatsApp community for support & accountability
💗 Reflection prompts between sessions
💗 BONUS: The 21-Day Reprogramming Challenge (a $300 value) to heal the core beliefs behind your patterns
✨Or Join a Single Workshop – $88 AUD
Choose any of the three 90-minute live workshops.
You’ll receive access to that session’s replay.
(Community access and reprogramming materials are not included in the single-workshop option. That’s why most people choose the full 3 part series)
Select Full 3 Part Program
Secure Love in Action 3-Part Series
240
The Full 3-Part Workshop
Understanding & Honouring Your Needs
88
Secure Love In Action Workshop 1 (Friday 21 November 2025)
Communicating with Clarity & Compassion
88
Workshop 2 (Friday 12 December 2025)
Boundaries & Secure Relating
88
Workshop 3 (Friday 9 January 2026)
Or Select Single Workshop
Hi, I’m Gina Toms
Your Guide to Secure Love & Deep Connection
I help women heal attachment wounds, reclaim their sensuality, and attract deeply fulfilling relationships—without endless dating struggles or repeating painful patterns.
As a Certified Sex, Love & Relationship Coach, Conscious Dating Coach, and Integrated Attachment Theory Coach, I blend science-backed healing methods with sensual embodiment practices to help women feel secure, magnetic, and deeply connected to love & pleasure.
If you're ready to reprogram old dating patterns, heal from past relationships, and embody your most confident, radiant self...you’re in the right place.
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