You know the feeling…
He takes longer than usual to reply.
You tell yourself it’s fine.
But then you check your phone again.
...And again.
You reread his last message.
Was I too much? Did I say something wrong? Is he losing interest?
Or maybe he tells you he’s not ready for anything serious.
You want commitment.
But somehow you hear yourself saying:
“That’s okay. I’m happy to see where this goes.”
Maybe you act chill when something hurts.
Give more than you’re receiving.
Or find yourself completely consumed by someone you barely even know.
You might understand exactly why you do it.
But knowing hasn’t stopped you from doing it.
And if this keeps happening with different people, it’s probably not bad luck anymore.
It’s a pattern.
And these patterns can cost you years.
another situationship you stay in too long
another person you chase who isn't choosing you
another relationship where you slowly lose yourself
It's time to change the pattern and create a different story for yourself.
This Is For You If…
You try not to get too attached, but everything goes out the window when you meet someone you like
You overthink texts and find yourself stressing over whether they still like you
You feel a background of anxiety in life, especially in relationships, that doesn't go away no matter how hard you try
You overgive, people-please or accept less than you really want because you're scared to lose people
You keep finding yourself attracted to people who can’t fully choose you
You are longing to finally be in a relationship where you are really seen, chosen, and loved
Imagine getting your life back...
You meet someone you really like…
and instead of your whole world suddenly revolving around him, you keep your life.
Your work. Your friends. Your plans. Your energy.
You’re not waking up wondering whether he’s texted.
You’re not spending hours analysing what he meant.
You’re not exhausted from the emotional rollercoaster of Does he like me? Is he pulling away? What should I do?
You feel relaxed.
You enjoy getting to know him without needing to know where it’s going yet.
You say what you actually want.
You trust yourself when something doesn’t feel right.
And you stop wasting months trying to convince someone to give you the relationship you want.
Then something else starts to change.
The people you’re attracted to can start changing too.
The hot-and-cold man who once would have felt intoxicating doesn’t have quite the same pull.
Consistency starts feeling attractive.
Effort feels attractive.
Someone being clear that they want you feels attractive.
I’ve watched women do this work and then find themselves dating completely differently - including meeting men who felt like a massive upgrade from the ones they’d previously been chasing.
Men who made an effort.
Men who showed up.
Men who chose them back.
This is what The Secure Love Reset is designed to help you begin changing.
At the heart of the program is the Ideal Parent Figure protocol - a practice developed by psychologists that has been clinically proven to heal attachment .
This is not another coaching program that promises the world but doesn't change much. It's deep, powerful work with a scientific backing.
You don't need any experience to do the practice effectively. You will be guided into a deeply relaxed state and led through the process step by step. This is a "press play and receive" experience.
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This work is gentle, cumulative, and designed to create lasting change when practised consistently.
What You'll Receive
A 21-day guided process based on the Ideal Parent Figure method
Weekly instructional videos explaining how to do the practice safely and effectively
Guided audio meditations you can return to again and again
A troubleshooting video to support common questions or challenges
Bonus inner child connection meditations
Option to add on a 1-1 coaching session at a discounted rate
The Investment: $333
One-time payment · Lifetime access
See What My Clients Had To Say
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THE TRANSFORMATION
What You May Notice After 3 Weeks
Many people report feeling:
CALMER IN EVERYDAY LIFE
Less anxiety, overthinking and emotional overwhelm
CHANGES IN ATTRACTION
More drawn to consistency, effort and people who actually choose you
HIGHER SELF WORTH
Less people-pleasing, second-guessing and settling for less
RELAXED IN DATING
More energy for yourself, your work, your friends and your life
Real Client Results after 3 weeks
Important Safety Note
This course is not designed to be your first point of support if you are currently working through significant, unprocessed trauma.
If you have a history of complex trauma and have not yet done therapy or trauma-informed work, this process is best done alongside a qualified therapist or coach.
If you feel unsure, you are always welcome to reach out before enrolling.
Join The Reset!
The Secure Love Reset
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A 3 Week Self-Paced Guided Journey to Build Secure Attachment
Real Results
Real Client Transformations
Here are some stories of real clients and what they experienced after just three weeks of the Ideal Parent meditation.
He noticed that his background anxiety had significantly reduced, allowing him to take action on parts of his business he’d been postponing for months.
She started feeling more confident standing up for herself, rather than defaulting to people-pleasing, in both romantic relationships and at work.
She noticed that she slowed down with a man she liked, recognised avoidant patterns, and chose not to pursue him... breaking her usual cycle.
She experienced profound shifts in the kind of men she was attracted to - very quickly meeting a man that was totally different from her usual type, treated her so much better, and really chose her.
Results vary depending on your unique attachment patterns, but this practice works by giving you the exact healing you need for the stage you are at... and in a very short time you will notice your thoughts, choices, and relationships begin to shift naturally.
Client Love
More of what my clients have to say
Before participating, George felt stuck, regressing, and unable to make progress for a significant period.
Following the program, he experienced an increased sense of love and connection with his parents, accompanied by a desire for more physical affection, such as hugging.
Franziska started standing up for herself, particularly when dealing with authority figures and her partner.
She loved the experience that she signed up to continue the expanded program to go even deeper.
Frequently asked questions
You don't need to wait until the next heartbreak to change the pattern
Another situationship.
Another person who won't choose you.
Another 6 months of trying to let go.
You already know where this road leads.
You can choose something different now.
Join the Secure Love Reset. You won't look back.
Hi, I’m Gina Toms
Your Guide to Secure Love & Deep Connection
an attachment coach who spent seven years single, two of them celibate, wondering if anyone would ever want me.
I tried everything to fix myself. Spirituality. Tantra. Feminine energy work. And it helped...I became more magnetic, men noticed me...but I kept attracting the same emotionally unavailable guys.
The real shift happened when I discovered attachment healing. Once I rewired my nervous system and cleared the subconscious patterns keeping me stuck, everything changed. I stopped chasing. I stopped overgiving. I started feeling safe in my body and secure in who I was.
That's when I realized: confidence and magnetism don't come from trying harder...they come from feeling safe in love.
Now I help women stop attracting emotionally unavailable men and start choosing partners who are consistent, committed, and emotionally present. Because when you feel secure within yourself, you attract love that actually feels good.
